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Eliminate Your Excuses Not to Approach That Beautiful Girl

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There she is. A super pretty girl, standing by herself! Are you going to make a move? You think about approaching her, but your heart starts pounding, your mouth goes dry, and your palms go sweaty. You decide to pass her up, telling yourself lamely that you'll approach the next hot girl "for sure."

Don't worry, it's a common reaction among most guys! Believe it or not, approaching a pretty girl can be the most stressful, traumatic experience in the world--more than doing an extreme sport like bungee jumping or facing a violent situation.

But never fear; here are five tips to help you overcome those familiar crippling excuses the next time you see a super-hot girl. If you fail to approach a girl like that, you know you will kick yourself for months, so take these excuse-eliminators to heart:

Excuse 1: I don't know what to say to her. Eliminator: Proper preparation prevents poor performance. You need to visualize and practice encounters with women in your head so you'll be ready when the real moment comes along. Better yet, practice on your guy friends who are also learning to approach girls. Make sure you have one default thing to say in different situations, such as a girl standing alone, a girl moving in the same direction, a girl moving in the opposite direction. Pickup is a game of practice, and the more practice you get in both real and simulated situations, the better you'll get.

And if the moment of truth comes, and your mind blanks and you can't remember anything to say, step up to the girl anyway, and do it boldly and confidently within three seconds of spotting her. The right words will come to your mind, and even if they don't, saying anything at all is better than saying nothing. In fact, what you actually say is much less important than the manner in which you say it. Say something stupid but with confidence and a friendly smile, and watch as the girl's defenses simply melt away.

Not approaching guarantees you strike out. So if you don't want to watch helplessly as that beautiful girl walks out of your life forever, then hitch up your courage and step up to her right away.

Excuse 2: What will other people think if I approach her in a public place? Eliminator: Without fail, when you approach a girl in a public space, one of two things will happen: bystanders will ignore you, or bystanders will smile and mentally or even openly root for you. When's the last time you personally witnessed a man confidently and politely picking up a woman in front of you in public? Not counting crude "Hey baby, how much" comments, probably never, right?

Picking up a girl in public is fun and romantic to people watching. No typical bystander will openly disparage you for approaching a girl in front of them. And when you do make the approach, you will quickly find that you tune out all distractions anyway, and as you focus on your target, you won't even realize there are other people around.

Excuse 3: She looks unfriendly, so I'll find someone "friendlier-looking." Eliminator: Do you consider yourself a friendly guy? Most likely you do. But do you always walk around with a huge grin plastered on your face? Probably not. If she looks unfriendly at the moment, it's most likely her mind is simply occupied, not that she's a cold person. It's amazing how much some unfriendly-looking women's faces absolutely light up when someone engages them in conversation. Try it and you'll see the same thing.

The next excuse may almost be the exact opposite.

Excuse4: She's laughing and busy with her friends, so instead of interrupting, I'll find someone who looks like she isn't doing anything. Eliminator: Not approaching a girl like this is a huge mistake. Moods and emotions don't get turned on and off like a light switch. If she's having a good time with her friends, she isn't suddenly going to turn cold and mean when you make your approach. This is especially true if you catch her right after she's laughing from something her friends said. Go in strong and she'll carry over those positive emotions right over to you. Plus, her friends will probably be happily amused by your ballsy confidence and egg her on to talk to you.

Excuse 5: She's too beautiful, she probably gets hit on all the time and won't give me the time of day. Eliminator: The perfect girl to approach is the one you think is too beautiful to approach. Why are you in this game in the first place? To meet average-looking girls? The more you practice with the truly beautiful girls, and--face it--that's the type of girls we all want, the less you will be intimidated when you approach run-of-the-mill pretty girls.

And it's amazing how few times some of the truly beautiful girls get approached, because all the guys are so intimidated. Go in there with guns blazing, and she'll probably only be too happy to talk to the only guy who had the courage to approach her in weeks or months. And if she does get approached a lot, she's most likely good at brushing guys off quickly. Persist past this initial cold shoulder and she'll be impressed by your confidence -- you'll move right past all the those guys who slink off with their tail between their legs at the first sign of trouble.

Guys' brains are amazing in their capacity to generate endless amounts of ridiculous excuses in order not to do something that could potentially be the greatest thing that has ever happened to them -- meeting the woman of their dreams. The next time you suddenly come across a beautiful woman who is exactly your type, immediately and forcefully eliminate all your excuses, and simply make the approach! You're absolutely guaranteed to have no regrets.