Boosters, Campers, & Cheaters! OH MY! - Episode 11: Tons of New Friends

How To Get Sexy Girls

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How to get girls to respond to your online dating messages is one of the biggest mysteries to most guys who try dating online. But it really needn't be so mysterious. Once you accept that you don't know everything there is to know yet about girls and dating, then it's a simple matter of swallowing your pride and educating yourself. It's very rare that anyone is taught how to approach girls, talk to them, engage their interest and ultimately, attract them. It's one of the problems with our society that we're just not open enough about these things. Add to that most of us are too busy in our hectic lifestyles to properly meet anyone, not least girls. But the solution to both these problems is easy once you know.

In my experience, there's a lot of advice out there but not much education. You'll read everywhere about how important it is to be confident, to understand female psychology, to tone up your conversation skills and all the rest. And it's all good advice. I have no problem with it. The only problem is that they rarely (let's face it, if ever) actually teach you HOW to do these things. If you want to date online (and you should because it is the fastest and most effective way of meeting girls there is) then you don't want to hear again that you must make a good profile - you need to know what a good profile is and HOW to do it. You don't want to hear again that you need to learn the art of conversation; you need to be taught clearly and methodically what the heck that actually means.

You don't what some dating guru telling you that you need to understand how women think and why; you need someone to guide you in practical steps to an understanding of female psychology that will be genuinely useful to you; something you can put into practice to get results. The sad truth is that so many of the so-called dating gurus and other self-proclaimed experts are just rehashing stuff that they have read by other self-styled dating gurus and actually none of them know in practice what the shoot they're talking about! Fortunately, that is not true of everyone, just most. And you, by the way, just struck lucky.

It can take a very long time and be a slow and agonising process piecing this information together bit by bit either through endless hours of internet searching or through even more excruciating hours of embarrassment, failure and disappointment doing it the hard way and making lots of mistakes. Well, you certainly learn that way but man, what a way to learn!

I deal with guys everyday who are completely disillusioned with online dating, who are rapidly becoming convinced that they actually have no hope and are doomed to a life of loneliness and sex starvation because they're just not getting the success that they crave through online dating sites. They've tried so many sites and they've spent so much money and they've had often no success whatever: not even a single reply to a single message they've sent. They have gone beyond desperation and into despair. So they don't at first come to ask me for help, just to share their horror at the cruelty of their fate.

I'm not a dating guru; I never claim to be that. But I do know how to get girls, I know how to get dates with girls and i just want to share that with other guys because I can't stand to see them going to bits over this thing. You see, all of these guys, without exception, have nothing wrong with them at all. They're interesting, fun guys with every chance of dating some pretty hot chicks. They just don't know how to go about it. And that's not because they're dumb. It's just because no one has ever educated them.

This kind of thing used to happen to me so much, these guys in despair over the online dating game, that I realised there was a real need for some way of putting this situation right. A way of setting the record straight. I felt that what I had learned over the years, should be passed on, taught to others to save them going through this experience. After all, it's not as if I had some kind of precious secret that I wanted to jealously guard. I just have the knowledge accumulated through lots of experience backed up with scientific research. And there are plenty of girls out there, so there's no need for me to guard myself from the competition! Why should every guy coming to online dating have to keep re-inventing the wheel from scratch? there's no reason.

I got to thinking, wouldn't it be fantastic if somebody had taken the trouble to do all of that hard graft for you and pulled together the very best advice in one place? And not only that, but explained in practical detail exactly HOW you should create a profile, exactly HOW to write dating messages so that you get responses, fast; exactly HOW to talk to girls so that you quickly build a positive relationship with them; exactly HOW to attract precisely the girls you want and make dates with them; exactly HOW to make the first date a success and lead on to another date and another? Wouldn't it be cool, I thought, if there was a single, powerful resource that could empower you, educate you step by step in how to actually, successfully DO all of these things and more? Well, that's what I thought.

Like I said, there's no point reinventing the wheel. So the first thing I did was to look and see if I could find a resource like that; a book, a video, a website, anything - a resource that would give honest and practical instruction based on real experience and scientific evidence. I spent several months (in between my other work and dating) trawling through all the books and sites and talking to a lot of people. I found a lot of good advice, I found some knowledgeable people, I found some guys who were very successful at online dating but I just couldn't find that key resource that I knew would be so helpful to all these guys who'd tried and failed. The resource that would finally turn things around for them and give them the sweet taste of that long-for success.

Now I'm not one to give up at the first, over even the second or third hurdle. So I set to work. I knew I had all the experience and I knew that any gaps in my scientific knowledge could be filled with thorough research. It took me a while but I really enjoyed it. Oh sorry, I didn't say what I was doing. I was writing a book. That's what I did. I put it all together into practical guide in clear, easy language. I slapped my personal guarantee on it and showed it to some of the most successful daters on the scene (including a couple of gurus who wanted to know how I had 'discovered' their secrets!). The consensus was that I had been successful. That the gap had been closed. That there is now a genuine, useful, complete and practical guide to online dating success, specifically for guys that works. I was happy with that. So I published it.

I now confidently expect that, as copies get out there and word goes around, I will see fewer and fewer of these despairing guys and more and more smiles on more and more faces. I'd like that. I really would.